Being a Misfit

I actually kind of enjoy it. Right from the childhood I’ve always been like that. The sense of belonging always have eluded me. If I was in a trekking group, I would be the last one climbing and discuss less about trek there. If I was in middle of photographers I will be the least knowledgeable and the things I want to photograph will be always ignored by others. If I was in a social gathering, most of the times I feel invisible.

misfit-2.0-1It had happened to me in office as well. Till four months in the current organization nobody knew that someone with my name even worked in the office. Once my bank guy told me that they cant verify my account because nobody knows me in office. Thankfully the HR manager know me and that helped at that point of time.

My family and brother made me read books from childhood and it was very helpful. I wasnt trying to fit anywhere. The books created new world to me and if I had to discuss a book I wouldnt have anyone other than my brother and most of the popular fiction never really attracted me and if people were talking about that I will have no clue. I was a misfit there too.

Sometimes there are instances where I had to be in a social gathering. When people are so Β happy networking and clicking picture at drop of the hat, one part of me wants to mingle with them and then the misfit part of me dont let that happen.

This is the problem when you have two or three people who actually take notice of you and the little things you do to them and appreciate it. You Β wouldnt need any others in their company and that would be perfectly enough. A long drive with two of my friends in ECR before two years is the best memory of me where I participated in all the discussions. Then there was a trip with my brother to some far off place where most of the time were spent in silence. I am again a misfit in office parties and tours.

Its good to be a Β misfit. I dont have social obligations. I get very few invitations out. I dont spend time and money in travelling from one end of the city to another just for the sake of dinner or drink. I spend time with me and that is not the luxury everyone can afford.

Its nice to be a misfit.

Comments

  1. Ti

    You should be proud that you are a misfit/different from others and atleast you don’t try hard to be part of a group just for the heck of it. It is good that you are happy with the way you are and don’t lead a life of pretention πŸ™‚ You are best the way you are!!! Cheers Brag!!

    1. --- :) ----

      Misfit and different are two different things la Shru.. I dont want to lead a life of pretension but the sense of belonging in day today life is so hard to achieve..

      Thanks for the comment among other things Shru. Much appreciated.

      1. Ti

        Well, its all in the way you look at it da. You can look at it as two different things or one and the same. I know its easy for me to say, but you are in there and may be it does not feel all that good.
        Anyway, celebrate pannu.. There are so many things about you that you should celebrate πŸ™‚

  2. mahesh

    We are all misfits at some level or the other! The degree alone varies!

    I think Prince is referring to Kilpauk πŸ™‚

    If everyone remains a perfect fit the world will become a boring place – we need misfits πŸ™‚

  3. Aarti

    Good to be a misfit.. I have always been a rebel and labelled the black sheep because i refuse to blindly follow customs or norms.. And i got no regrets πŸ™‚ If all were good, it would be so boring illa!! πŸ˜›

    1. --- :) ----

      Yeah.. Totally right! But when we are in a group and when we take a different stance or chose a different way to have fun, it either upsets the other in the group or they feel sympathetic/irritated towards us. Spoiling some others’s mood sucks!
      I like that you got no regrets. I too dont have any πŸ™‚

  4. Susan Deborah

    Everyone is a misfit somewhere of the other. It’s better that way . . . identifying a few places where we fit instead of fitting everywhere. Consider yourself gifted and worth.

    Joy always,
    Susan

    1. --- :) ----

      I always consider me that way Susan. The question is in how many places I feel as a misfit? And if so, what is the true calling and where my happiness lies should take a serious introspection. Thanks for the visit and comments Susan. Much appreciated πŸ™‚

      1. Gourav Joshi

        I feel most of us do feel the same many a times……if not most i do…….and what u said is correct as far as my feelings are concerned….we need to do a serious introspection of where our happiness lies….. πŸ™‚

      2. Joanne

        I am here on this post/blog because I searched on this topic to feel better as I was feeling ridiculously down a moment ago… and, not for the 1st time…but, for the millionth of time πŸ™‚ I may not find a solution to this issue of being a ‘misfit’ (a definition we give ourselves) here but, to know that someone else goes through the same trauma and has same questions does make me feel better (not because, you also go through such hard times…wish you didn’t have to…).

        1. Bragadeesh Prasanna

          Hey join the club.. and surely like before this time is also its going to be shortlived annd pass away phase. I wont say this feeling wont come again, but atleast we would be more informed, ready and strong

  5. YAMINI ARORA

    Misfit……..sounds real bad!!Mis fit should be replaced with the word “unique”….coz you alone are an odd one out amongst the rest!You are weird to them but free like a bird fr your own self……misfit is like we are agreeing that we should all follow the same paths lest we’ll not be accepted & henceforth tagged as “misfit”…..so its bttr we gave it a term that really prooves to one and all that being unique is a positive attribute not a bad or negative attrinute.Now its not easy being unique too…people who have tried everything to impress their peers,relatives,colleagues and still did not got noticed have gone through a turmoil of rejection,ignorance,consequently they got to learn life’s best lesson of how to lead an independent life…how to create your own path without focussing on waht other’s have to say to stop you….people who are best fitted will nvr get to know how it feels to be free from judgements so my point is real misfit are those who lead a monotonous olready existing life like all do…..the fit ones are those who make their own unique identity…..they are best fitted coz they give uniquesness to the society…they have novelty to offer…..i love being a uniques person who is noticed fr the uniques path and not for following the same boring path like misfits do πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜€

    1. --- :) ----

      Misfit and unique are two different things. The former moves away from people and the latter attracts the people. I love the positive message in the comment, but there are people who dont fit in the crowd. It doesnt mean they are unique. Introverts may be.

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