Being Single

I am in this uncomfortable age you know, where all my male friends are getting married and all my female friends are having kids. Whenever I get a phone call from a school or college buddy, I pick up the phone in anticipations of hearing his wedding news and most of the time I am right. And friends who are single around me are dying to fall in a relationship.

There are lot of difficulties in being single in such scenario. Suddenly you know that you cant take that friend to pub tonight to hangout because he is busy having sweet nothings with his soon to be Mrs. And suddenly a drive to beach seem to be so long and boring with all your friends are busy impressing their bride to be. And what happens after the marriage is totally different story altogether. But bringing these guys together for an outing some day will also annoying because, sitting in Ford figo they will not be talking to each other but to their respective girlfriends (?!) leaving me dozed off almost while driving.

OK! They are excited and I will let them alone. Lets have a look at my single friends. Most of them, will walk as if the whole burden of the world as in their shoulders. They would say “Prasanna! I think I have a good job, I earn a decent salary. Mom and dad are happy. But still something is missing in life” I know where they are coming to but I advice them to take some adventure trips. Most of them shake their head in despair and walk away and the rest stop talking to me. The worst thing is they start hitting on every other female they come across.

And then if they start dating, I cant stand their antics for the first few months. I can expect myself to be sitting in his couch writing some stupid poems they are dictating me. Decorating his house for the day that special someone comes to their house and so on. Its like almost the person who came into their life out of the blue has brought spring, blossoms and flower to their otherwise boring life.

And then the family expectations; I cant attend a single wedding because of my age. Before I know people start talking about marriage and they almost fix a girl who has come to marriage. They dont understand whether I am ready or not. And everybody has some instant suggestion that I should change the company which I am working with right now because they are paying me low. I dont know whether it happens only in this part of the world or not but even if I had had a change of job or position just a week ago, the relatives are not so happy about my salary or position or company. For them its OK to be a peon in TCS or Infosys but not a manager in any other company.

And then these super romantic boyfriend-friends. After a casual chat, they will ask what I am doing for the weekend. I would say my plan. Mostly it will be movies or trekking or some travel. And the next moment the question springs “Dont you have a girl friend?” When i say No, their lecture starts how life will be meaningful with a partner yada yada yada as if I am living a total meaningless life.

I just wish people understand that Being Single is not some handicap. Its a choice. And I feel sorry for those thousands and thousands of ex-singles who fell in a wrong abuseful relationship by this peer pressure.

Have you gone through similar experience? Comment me and let me know how you handled this.

Comments

  1. Abu

    Been there… gone thru it… now I’m at an age where the ‘call’ is about 2 baby or recently bought car or trip abroad… similar stuff…

    Fear not… enjoy what you are doing – movies, treks, (used to be biking for me)…

    Yes, it does become more enjoyable with a gf/bf… but nothing compares to chilling out with best buddies (who don’t have gfs yet!!!)…

    Remember… grass is never greener on the other side!!!

    nice write-up… felt like I was 6-7 years younger!!!

    1. --- :) ----

      Right Abu! They simply cant get what I want to do.. I have a big list you know.. Its sometime hard to do with your gf/bf. I am not against anything but it should be natural. I cant believe relationships can come because of peer pressure. And I see this happening around me all the time. Enjoyed reading your blog too. Nadan Parindey.

      Thanks for the visit and do frequent.

  2. Hoo Sze Ling

    Being single is AWESOME!!! Actually I stopped hanging out with some friends because all they can talk about marriage, kids and when I am going to jump on the bandwagon. It’s so boring. Frankly I think I’m too hot and young to be tied down. I get to do whatever I want whenever I want wherever and don’t have to answer to anyone.

    1. --- :) ----

      Hey Hoo Sze Ling (Hope I spelled it right).. True Being single is awesome.. But you should hang out with your friends now and then dont you? Have fun and keep smiling.
      Thanks for the visit and comment.

      1. Varadarajan

        Yes it has been a while. But I must tell you your writing has changed so much and you write so much. I subscribed to your RSS feed a long time back.. so that you know. 🙂

  3. Nirmala

    I normally find your posts long and sometimes boring. But this one is crisp and to the point. This is one of your best posts. Enjoy while it lasts.

  4. Rohit

    The part where you talk Abt working at infosys or TCS for our parents is spot on… It has become like a govt job… is it wrong to work where we like? When will our parents ever realize?I can oly wonder

    And being single is the best, When you are single you can actually use the word” freedom”.

  5. Sathya priyan alias "PRASANNA!!"

    Nice talk, u had given thots upfront!! People need to have been in a relationship to understand what it means to be if SINGLE… gr8 feeling … Many people think like falling in love is an ambition, but fail to understand it’s as obtuse as getting ur manager posting… Might feel great but u get lost after that….
    Up on life’s every phase always the previous phase was much better!!! FACT!!!

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