I don’t know if it is only me or even you had come across this often. To find people depressed. It has almost become normal these days. Among my surroundings, the Bay of Bengal was the only one which came out of depression quite soon. And I quite don’t understand when being depressed became new being normal.
I cannot think of any reason to be depressed. I get my off days, that is true. But I cannot go on brood about it and plunge into depression. It is not just me. Another standard dialogue I hear is this. “I have gone through worst things in my life”. Whenever I hear something like this, I cannot help but smile. Sometimes I laugh. The people who say this will be in the middle or late twenties mostly. Coming over some illness or break up looks like a very daunting tasks for them. I don’t understand why. I had always wanted to ask them this. You say you have seen worse. So I agree. But please enlighten me worse than what? What is the scale of your comparison? How can you even compare depression?
And since these people also get offended easily, I suppress all these questions and try to give an understanding look. Blame it on so many things, but quite frankly we are living in a not so bad time. There is no great financial insecurity. Our parents had means to provide us food, clothing, shelter, education. We mostly go into white collar jobs where we squeeze our brains out. Again I am saying, there can be bad days. But I don’t understand when so many people go through this bad spells. It is really making it hard. I have a lot of friends and I have to always remember what hurts whom before saying things. And even if I hurt someone I am not confronted but they grieve to others through whatsapp. Sometimes they complain to me and when I say my practical stand point they screenshot it and put in their whatsapp groups to tell the world, how rude I am. Frankly I don’t care. But I am really worried about the mental health of my acquaintances.
I am seeing a deluge of motivational posts, “Strong me”, “I had people back stab me” etc etc even from college going people. I am not sure what they mean by this. And if you notice, you will see only pathos songs would be shared a lot with Hashtags. I fear, even a sane person will go depressed if people around him goes on like this. I personally know lot of people who tell me that I don’t know what it is to be depressed. They are right. But when they can judge me, i can also say that they don’t know what it means to enjoy small beautiful things in life. I understand that they feel safer in bed and under the sheets, but there are hell a lot of stars in the sky. You can hop on a bus and get to a tourist place in matter of four hours. You can call one of your friends and try to understand what he is doing. More often than not, it would end up in a cheerful conversation. Well, I also want to say about flowers, birds and kids etc., but I don’t like them that much.
The point of the the post is to rant. But when you feel depressed or when someone else you know tells you that they are depressed, try to find out if it is a bad day or spell. Show them what they have is better than 80% of India have and make them feel good. But rest assured, when you make them see the point, you will see a Facebook post saying, “I have defeated depression. I am strong that yesterday”
You would feel you should have let them alone for some more time. I am stronger than yesterday.