Even I will not be missed in a course of time by anybody. No it is not a post where I talk about how I became unimportant to people and all. That is true to some count, but the blog post is on a different topic.
In my native, we lived in a closely knit community. Back in 1989, when we first moved into our own house, there was a small boy bouncing ball against a temple wall near our house. My brother walked up to him and asked him whether he could join him. I was too small to join them. They two started playing and they are friends till today. Well, they were friends till we left our native for good in 2007. But the friendship continued. Whenever he was in Chennai, he would stay in our house.
But I am thinking about the kids these days. I wonder whether they would have the luxury of such friendships. In this fast moving world, we put kids into various tuition when they come home after school. Due to the parent’s nature of jobs, they move to another city once in a while. The most shocking or surprising thing that comes to me is, I have not seen a single kid crying over his friend leaving town. Same with the schools. Their bench mates or school mates leaving the school for a better school or a different city has become a very common thing. And kids forget their friends sooner than we expect.
After finishing SSLC, I joined a different school for my XI and XII. There was a girl whose sister eloped with someone she liked. Being a small town and all, the word traveled faster and the parents decided to move to a different town altogether. She came to bid good bye to us. The guys whom I thought was really manly were broken to pieces. They were crying and making a huge scene. I didnt understand anything about it. Then I came to know these guys studied in the same school and walked together daily till she left the school that day. It took really long time for people to come out of that shock.
I, myself have never faced such situation. Some internal mechanism always gives an alert when I am getting too close to someone. Whenever I get too comfortable with some one, I move away. It had been a habit for me since childhood. Whenever I ignored the alert, I had learnt my lesson in hard ways.
What I was trying to say is, we are developing into humans who do not have any attachment necessary. Our attachment with most of our high school friends would end with liking their pictures in Facebook and feeling happy that they have similar paunch or baldness like us. Though we are connected virtually, true relationships are not cherished as it was cherished before all these social networking came in to make things easy. After a period of time, we are wary of our neighbors and sometimes we even think they are nosy and annoying. We have learnt to avoid eye contacts with our apartment people while jogging, parking cars or even while grocery shopping.
I think I may feel sad when my kids grow up without any life long friends or even memories for that matter. I just hope they would at least listen to my stories when I am old. Of the crazy things I did, of some memories that never vanishes, of some moments spent with the buddies whom I thought would come till last.
When someone says they will miss you, the question you have to ask them is “Till when?”